So I really didn’t want to make this a post on here, but I’m just still angry.
This one kid who’s in my women and gender studies course made fun of me and ridiculed me for a few things. Now, I have a neutral relationship with this kid, he’s weird but I don’t dislike him, he considers us friends. Anyway, he thought that it wasn’t right for me to not applaud this one girl and give a standing ovation for another during our final presentations.
First of all, I stood the fuck up for my FRIEND who went in front of our class and talked about her EATING DISORDER. Do you know how hard that is? To go up there and make yourself so vulnerable. She suffers from fucking anxiety already, and she WENT UP THERE AND TALKED ABOUT HER EATING DISORDER. So yes, I think that she should get a standing ovation and a hug because she fucking deserves it.Because when you have a few mental illnesses and you talk about your experiences I think you are strong. If there was less stigma, if people talked more freely about their disorders instead of hiding and being ashamed of what they are going through, maybe recovery would be just a little bit smoother because there might be some more support added to your support system.
As for the other girl, I’m pretty sure I did applaud her somewhat. The only reason why I didn’t give her a full hearted applause is because I didn’t believe in what she said about Abercrobie and Fitch. She was making Abercrombie and Fitch a saint company because they carry really small sizes. Now, first of all, I believe whole-heartedly that there is nothing wrong with any size or ANY body. Fat, thin, disabled, black, white, so on, etc, I think everyone is great and I believe that everyone has the same value. I agreed completely with what she was saying that “bones are for the dogs” is just the same as saying hurtful words to someone who is overweight. She made an argument that there are naturally thin people (I believe she even said naturally thin and naturally fat people, so I dug that too), but what I didn’t like was her Abercrombie and Fitch remark. The creator or CEO or whatever of Amercrombie and Fitch (at least to my knowledge on what I have read, but the internet does lie so maybe I’m wrong) said he didn’t want “ugly” people wearing his clothing and that’s why he didn’t sell certain sizes in stores. I also know that in many stores the workers are conventionally attractive (once again, nothing wrong with that) but the “ugly” or “less attractive” people are placed in back (yeah, there is something wrong with that). A couple of years ago I also read this article that one Abercrombie and Fitch store did not want a Muslim girl to wear a hijab at work, that is wrong as well. People of color are not well represented in these types of stores as well.
So no, I did NOT agree on the fact that she thought Abercrombie and Fitch was helping the world out by creating such small sizes. Not because there is something wrong with people of that size (because once again there is NOTHING wrong with thin people, and not all thin people are anorexic nor does the store promote eating disorders by carrying these sizes [which is another stereotype she talked about]) but because Abercrombie and Fitch is reinforcing the fact that if you are above a certain size, if you do not meet their standard of beauty, you are ugly and UNDESERVING OF THE SAME THINGS THAT “BEAUTIFUL” PEOPLE ARE. And I’m tired of hearing this shit. That is partially what my paper was on. THAT I, AND ALL OF THE OTHER FAT PEOPLE OUT THERE, DESERVE THE SAME THINGS THAT EVERYONE ELSE DOES. That the people of color DESERVE THE SAME THINGS THAT EVERYONE DOES. That people should not be oppressed because of their religion, where they’re from, any form of disability they may have. EVERYONE deserves the same respect and the same opportunities as the next person.
And I know he only questioned me about this because I am fat and she was talking about thin people, but that’s not how it works in my mind asshat.
That’s why I didn’t applaud her.
(Also, as a disclaimer, I do not think lesser of you if you wear Abercrombie and Fitch clothing, Hollister, etc. a lot of my best friends do and I don’t give a shit because it’s their life and their body and they can do what the fuck they want with it.)